LAZY – unwilling to work or use energy/effort or disinclined to work ~ idle, indolent, slothful, work-shy, inactive, underactive, sluggish, lethargic…
DISABLED – a physical or mental condition that limits a person’s movements, senses, or activities or substantially limits one or more major life activity ~ handicap, incapacity, impairment, infirmity, defect…
I can walk, keep the house relatively clean, hang out with my kids, make love to my husband, and a hold a full time job by working at home. There are definitely days where I cannot do all of those activities due to my ailments flaring up. A lot of individuals with a chronic illness are like that – we do as much as our bodies will allow us to do to keep living our adult, responsibility filled, lives.
Then you have the people who use pain, physical illness, and/or emotional illness as an excuse to get out of what they don’t feel like doing, the “milkers”. Or even worse, the ones who don’t even have a ‘legitimate’ illness of any kind that make up excuses to not “adult”, these are known as the “fakers”.
Sometimes it is extremely difficult to tell the difference between all of these people. I could have a several day flare-up and only the bare minimum is getting done. Kids and dogs clean, healthy, and fed? I’m winning! Though some make it so obvious it’s painful not to call them out on their bullshit!
Example 1: If you claim you have migraines that keep you from being a parent or partner/spouse or employee yet you eat unhealthy, don’t drink adequate water, and still party almost every weekend – just stop, you’re not fooling anyone.
Example 2: If your favorite excuse for not being an adult and taking care of your responsibilities is “I have a bad back/knees/hips/etc. but you run around all over town, go to amusement parks, and act like you just turned 21 and the party never stops – grow up, get a job, or at least use a different excuse!
Why People Like this Hurt the Chronic Illness Community
They are the reason truly disabled people have to fight for 2-3 years to be on disability. The “fakers” and “milkers” make everyone else question why an actual disabled person can’t do more.
If you want to be lazy, cool – go be lazy! Just stop acting like you are disabled or have an ailment as your excuse to be lazy.
Those of us who battle our bodies, our minds, or both on a daily basis would greatly appreciate if you would stop disrespecting us by pretending to be part of our community. Some of us can still work (with accommodations), some can’t, but NONE of us act like life is a party.
To my fellow peeps who are in this with me, keep on fighting and getting through each day as healthy and happy as you can be!